How to be a gay top
A lot of people believe that homosexuality is a simple matter of genetics—if you have the so-called “gay gene,” well, you know the rest. In other words, gays and lesbians are just “born that way” and that’s that.
While this explanation is intuitively appealing, the life is that things are far more complex. Increasingly, scientific research suggests there are multiple factors that might contribute to lgbtq+ orientation—and they’re very alternative from one person to the next. The complete result of all this variability is that unlike “kinds” or “types” of homosexuality probably exist. In other words, being same-sex attracted isn’t just one thing, and not everyone who is gay is homosexual for the same reasons.
A fascinating new study supporting this idea was recently published in the journal PLoS ONE. This study focused specifically on exploring the potential origins of male homosexuality, but did so in a way that was very different from almost all previous studies on this topic. Whereas most investigate in this area has treated gay men as a homogeneous group, the researchers leading this examine instead looked at subgroups of gay men w
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Here are some rapid tips and tricks from ACON’s Peer Education team that will get you topping those bottoms like a pro in no time.
1. Foreplay before play
When topping for the first time it can be intimidating so we advise building a lot of trust with your partner by exploring each other’s bodies through foreplay before starting insertive sex.
2. Talk the talk
Communication is incredibly important when you are topping, particularly if it’s for the first hour. Get comfortable checking in with your partner and asking them how they liked to be fucked. (do they need foreplay? Perform they need to be fingered?) Equally, if you understand there is something that your significant other does that makes you rock firm then ask for it!
While you are talking about what gets you and your partner’s engines going, why don’t you include what sort of HIV prevention methods you want to be using? Slip in that you are using PrEP or an undetectable viral load – or maybe that you are looking to use condoms. Whatever it is you decide to employ,
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what straight women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and draw out a accurate list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities display in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The matching comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
What gay and bi men say they want
Just like straight women and direct men, “we enjoy be
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to portray a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is vital to knowing these terms not only for members of the LGBTQ+ society, but also for increasing understanding and acceptance of gender non-conforming relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Being a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Safety During Gay Sex
As a rule, in homosexual sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the notion of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes emotional roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the top in a gay sexual relationship is the partner performing the penetration. This may include the employ